Practicing Self-Devotion: 3 Ways Towards a More Mindful and Compassionate You

I can still hear the voices of my older relatives and my elementary school teachers telling me “be disciplined”, “keep at it”, to requite time and energy towards what we want. As a young, impressionable child, I believed all those things considering well, they made sense. They worked. And honestly, I felt like it’s the only way to flourish.

I didn’t grow up considering any other path. I pushed and hustled my way through my goals, reminding myself of the rewards I’ll reap from imbibing willpower deep into my veins — and it has led me to good things: a stratum from a good university, a stable job, promotions year without year, and so on. I achieved a lot of what society would consider as success.

Allowing my life to be led by discipline, it urged me towards a path of (perceived) stability and (societally approved) security, alright, but… There came a time when I felt like something was missing, that however it is I’m living is no longer enough. I started stuff restless as I looked for something else, something that did not need to be forced or pushed… Something that came naturally for me. This was when I started my love topic with the concept of devotion.

Here are the top three ways I injected self-devotion into my life:

1. I consciously live from the heart

As opposed to what others think, living from your heart doesn’t midpoint stuff flaky, or unreliable, or emotional 24/7. It’s well-nigh listening to what your emotions, your soul and your soul has to say… And unsuspicious what needs to come up. Without having to rationalise and intellectualise everything.

This ways living life, creating, and engaging with others in a way that’s from stuff centered in your body. It’s well-nigh permitting the variegated emotions and sensations to simply undertow through you until it has been recognised (and it dissipates).

And from this grounded place where every part of your stuff is acknowledged, you’ll finger a surge of compassion constantly upspring from deep within you. You’ll be increasingly radiant and naturally have increasingly patience and deeper understanding for people.

Questions to vivify this in the moment:

  • How can I be increasingly compassionate?
  • What is triggering this undertow of action?
  • Can I sit with this emotion and see what comes up?

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama

2. I redefined concepts to uncurl to heart-centered living

As I consciously live from my heart, I notice how my mind’s coming up with ironclad reasons for why I’m not living a “proper” life. At first, I thought it was simply considering I wasn’t used to listening to my soul for what I truly desire to have and do in the moment. But as time passes by, I realise that there are truly a lot of things I’ve learned that are outdated for where I am in my journey.

For one thing, I have a variegated definition of what success is. I used to think that success is a checklist and everyone has the same items to trammels off. Now, I see success as whatever I pinpoint it to be. I don’t plane use the word as much anymore. What I prefer to measure is my level of presence in everything I do rather than ventilator an platonic that I know isn’t for me.

Another thing is that I have grown to make decisions based on expansion and potentiality. Instead of waiting for things to happen surpassing moving forward, I tap into my innate tendency to play and imagine. I ask myself, “What option makes me finger the most expansive?” To be honest, it was a hit and miss when I first started doing this. But the increasingly I treated life as an experiment, it became easier for me to connect to what feels most true.

Questions to vivify this in the moment:

  • What voices tell me I can’t live life from the heart?
  • Am I unshut to new paths and ideas to experiment with?
  • How can you add increasingly play in your life?

3. I took superintendency of my soul like I never did before

I found that a lot of my emotional turmoil and reactive states stemmed from not feeling good with my physical soul — may it be considering of my (recently ended) decade-long wrestle with eczema, my 20-lb weight proceeds months surpassing my wedding or my too acidic thoroughbred chemistry. It was quite some time surpassing I fully realised and wonted this as true for me. But once I did, it was unchangingly an onwards and upwards progress from then on. Gradual but forward.

Again, I treated things as experiments, detaching myself from the result and just feeling into how unrepealable foods or exercise modalities make me feel. If it makes me finger alive, then I do it a second time. If it doesn’t and it’s a strong no for me, I completely tint it off from my list. I do that with options I have on the daily — on what to eat for dinner, what kind of exercise video to play for the day, how to weightier ground myself when I get restless and emotional. It goes on and on, and I’ve grown to love the process, plane surpassing I got the results.

Questions to vivify this in the moment:

  • How does my soul finger right now?
  • When was the last time I felt alive?
  • Can I add increasingly activities like that in my daily routine?

“Your soul isn’t a temple, it’s a home you’ll live in forever. Take superintendency of it.” – Colin Wright

The steps whilom are the ones that I pension going when to and have helped me reach a level of purpose that I could have never imagined for myself. Self-devotion is an evolutionary practice. It’s what humanity is starving to have in its core. It’s an act of refusal to be shackled by societal rules yet again, expressly without millenia of stuff provided with strict blueprints on how to live life. Self-devotion is you coming when to you. Are you ready to receive yourself in this way?

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